Originally shared by Michael Baker
On the differences between Victims and Martyrs..
I found this article on Livestrong, and I think it’s an important exercise in self reflection to examine the list of behaviors and qualities associated with each, comparing them to our own behaviors and qualities. Ideally, we would be neither, but if we are, then perhaps we should ask ourselves why?
http://www.livestrong.com/article/14732-overcoming-the-role-of-victim-or-martyr/
Victim : Martyr
1. Usually has short-term problem : Long-term problem
2. Motivated to change : Stuck in their problem
3. Rights violated by others : Rights violated by others
4. Did not choose the problem : Chooses to remain in problem situation
5. Never complains : Complains all the time
6. Lacks insight into problem : Frequently has insight into the problem
7. Unknowingly plays an active part in the problem : Frequently knowingly plays an active part in the problem
8. Doesn’t often seek help : Seeks help all the time
9. Wants to let go of the problem : Holds on to the problem
10. Guilt free : Guilt driven
11. Solution oriented : Problem oriented
12. Powerless due to lack of knowledge : Powerless out of a free will choice to be so
13. Unique problem : Habitual problems
14. Sincere desire to change : Mask of sincerity
15. Honest to self and others about the problem : Dishonest to self and others about the desire to change
16. Hesitant to get help : Seeks out help habitually
17. Reticent to talk about problem : Relishes the attention received in talking about the problem
18. Embarrassed about the problem : Wears problem as a badge of courage (purple heart)
19. Wants a quick solution to their crisis : Creates crises out of everything but blocks all solutions
20. Open to all new ideas : Holds a “yes, but” attitude to all new ideas
Read more: http://www.livestrong.com/article/14732-overcoming-the-role-of-victim-or-martyr/#ixzz1ydSaKKwH
http://www.livestrong.com/article/14732-overcoming-the-role-of-victim-or-martyr/#ixzz1ydSaKKwH
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